Author: Isabella Milan
Book title: Praying For a Miracle When it’s Hopeless
Publish date: November 2019
Praying for Hope when it’s Hopeless is about my physical, mental, and emotional struggle with Stage 4 Breast Cancer while going through a gut-wrenching divorce, and a fight for custody of my son. In 2004 and 2005, I had many battles with breast cancer resulting in two mastectomies and reconstruction surgeries. In 2007, I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Breast Cancer with metastasis to my brain.
Shortly after brain surgery, I was sent away in a wheelchair and a diaper by my husband back to my family in CA, leaving me penniless and hopeless. I have no answers as to why my husband tried abandoning me, divorcing me, and leaving me for dead fighting for my life, and visitation or custody of my son. I may have lost a few battles along the way.
But, thanks to God, I won the war! Included in my book are tips that helped me to recover. I am currently enjoying seeing my son experiencing college life; a site I never thought I’d survive to see. I shared my story to give hope to victims, survivors, families, and friends. They must know that this diagnosis isn’t a death sentence.
There are some events that occur in our lives that leave us void of the very breath that we breathe. These events are usually without fail, occurrences that happen unexpectedly, and certainly aren’t a part of the ultimate blueprint we have drawn for our lives. Nonetheless, these catastrophic moments in time do come, and often leave us much different than how they found us.
They leave us scarred. They leave us picking up the pieces to shattered dreams, hopes, and desires. They leave us changed. Forever.
Just like Marcus Aurelius once said, “When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is!”
Some people choose to allow the storms of life to rage on without any effort being made to calm the sea. And, I get it. You’ll see throughout this book moments where the average person would have given up and thrown in the towel. You’ll probably have some jaw-dropping moments where you’ll experience the same raw emotions I felt as I lived multiple nightmares back to back.
But, amid all the hell I have lived through and survived, I found slivers of hope that compelled me to fight. That pushed me into my war mode that ultimately brought about healing and restoration. While it’s very true that I lost plenty of battles along the way, it is with a great sense of accomplishment that I write this book having won the war.
Tough days are inevitable. Trials are sure to come. But, it’s how you handle the tough days and the trials that set you apart from the rest. AmI suggesting you glide through them without a tear-stained face? Absolutely not. That is not realistic. I am suggesting that you keep your positive outlook to know without a shadow of a doubt that the outcome will be in your favor.
My story that you are about to read is one of strength and survival. As you flip through the pages of my life and travel on the very tumultuous journey that left me broken, in despair, and minus hope; you’ll take notes and discover how I regained my wholeness, how I regained my sense of purpose, and how I found the audacity to hope again.
Dream again. Live again.
Yes, there are wars. But not all of them end in defeat. Some of them end in victory. And, my war…well, it ended in bittersweet victory. Here’s my story…
Isabella Milan is from the San Francisco Bay Area and educated in Southern California. She completed three degrees, including an MS in Sports Psychology, an MBA and a Doctoral Candidate in Clinical Psychology. Due to her life-threatening cancer, she underwent two mastectomies and reconstruction surgeries during 2004-2005.
In 2007, Isabella encountered Stage 4 Breast Cancer metastasis to her brain, leading to another surgery. In 2008, she was diagnosed with Hydrocephalus. A shunt was surgically inserted into her brain to drain the water. Isabella has looked breast cancer and other illnesses in the face and survived their wrath.
Her motto: Keep Fighting! Never Give Up! God Has You!! She is a 15-year Stage 4 Breast Cancer Survivor, resides in Texas, and is currently enjoying seeing her son experience college life. A sight she thought she would never survive to see.